2008 Woodie Awards
So, Stacey...
An Advice Column
Stacey Moriarty
Issue date: 12/4/06 Section: Features
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Q) So, Stacey…
We all know that breaking up is one of the hardest things to do, but what about letting go?
- Hurting
A) Dear Hurting,
The whole process of the breakup is rough. While going through it, you go through various stages that may include: anger, sadness, hate, missing and moving on. In all seriousness, the process of breakups can be similar to the process of grieving. Basically, a breakup is the death of a relationship, so going through the motions of grieving is a pretty normal thing as long as it's not taken to an extreme. Letting go is definitely a tough thing for many people. It's hard to think that the relationship that you put time, energy and feelings into has suddenly ended, so letting go is not something that happens immediately. Like any form of healing, letting go takes time. It is not healthy to hang onto what is not there anymore, so moving on is something that needs to be done. If you find yourself having problems with this step, talk it out either with a counselor, family member, or friend. Take a deep breath and remind yourself that nothing is as hard as it seems at first. Good Luck.
- Stacey
Q) So, Stacey…
My boyfriend and I live pretty far away from each other. Here at school things aren't bad at all because we're close to one another. We're both a little concerned with the holiday break coming up and what may happen to our relationship. Any tips on how to keep the relationship going?
- Still Standing
A) Dear Still Standing,
The important thing is you both recognize that you need to put effort into making your relationship work. The tips that I can give you are to keep the communication going, drop a message just to let your significant other know you're thinking of them, try to see each other no matter the distance, and don't smother each other. All of these things are extremely important when it comes to making any relationship work no matter the distance between each other. Everyone needs a little reminder now and then that someone, somewhere, is thinking of them, but at the same time no one wants to be smothered by lovey-dovey things. Know your limits when it comes to being mushy or the number of times of contacting each other in a day. The thing to remember is that all relationships need work, and if you're both willing to put the time and effort into it, you'll be just fine. Good Luck and Happy Holidays!
- Stacey
Have any questions or comments for Stacey? Write to her! Send your e-mails with the subject title "So, Stacey…" to integrat@clarkson.edu.
We all know that breaking up is one of the hardest things to do, but what about letting go?
- Hurting
A) Dear Hurting,
The whole process of the breakup is rough. While going through it, you go through various stages that may include: anger, sadness, hate, missing and moving on. In all seriousness, the process of breakups can be similar to the process of grieving. Basically, a breakup is the death of a relationship, so going through the motions of grieving is a pretty normal thing as long as it's not taken to an extreme. Letting go is definitely a tough thing for many people. It's hard to think that the relationship that you put time, energy and feelings into has suddenly ended, so letting go is not something that happens immediately. Like any form of healing, letting go takes time. It is not healthy to hang onto what is not there anymore, so moving on is something that needs to be done. If you find yourself having problems with this step, talk it out either with a counselor, family member, or friend. Take a deep breath and remind yourself that nothing is as hard as it seems at first. Good Luck.
- Stacey
Q) So, Stacey…
My boyfriend and I live pretty far away from each other. Here at school things aren't bad at all because we're close to one another. We're both a little concerned with the holiday break coming up and what may happen to our relationship. Any tips on how to keep the relationship going?
- Still Standing
A) Dear Still Standing,
The important thing is you both recognize that you need to put effort into making your relationship work. The tips that I can give you are to keep the communication going, drop a message just to let your significant other know you're thinking of them, try to see each other no matter the distance, and don't smother each other. All of these things are extremely important when it comes to making any relationship work no matter the distance between each other. Everyone needs a little reminder now and then that someone, somewhere, is thinking of them, but at the same time no one wants to be smothered by lovey-dovey things. Know your limits when it comes to being mushy or the number of times of contacting each other in a day. The thing to remember is that all relationships need work, and if you're both willing to put the time and effort into it, you'll be just fine. Good Luck and Happy Holidays!
- Stacey
Have any questions or comments for Stacey? Write to her! Send your e-mails with the subject title "So, Stacey…" to integrat@clarkson.edu.
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