2008 Woodie Awards
So, Stacey...
An advice column
Stacey Moriarty / Staff Writer
Issue date: 1/15/07 Section: Features
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Q: So, Stacey…
It's been 6 months since my boyfriend broke up with me. I've been asked out on dates a few times but have turned the guys down every time. Am I wrong for not wanting to go out with anyone just yet?
- Wondering
A: Dear Wondering,
The answer to this isn't a clear yes or no. In some ways you are wrong for not getting out there because it seems like you're holding on to the relationship you had that didn't work out, but in other ways it seems like you're taking a "time out" from dating so you can figure out what you want out of a relationship. It's O.K. to miss the previous relationship, but only to a point. You don't want to hang on to what isn't there because that is unhealthy, so take the good with the bad and let go but hang on to the good memories. If you just need a break to figure out what is right for you, then go for it. Every now and again it's good to step back and take a look at what you've got going on in your life so you can decide what the next best move should be. Relationships aren't easy, so a breather from them is sometimes the best choice. Whatever your situation, you'll be just fine. No one can decide what is right or wrong for you but YOU.
-Stacey
Q: So, Stacey…
How is it possible that all the good looking guys fall for the super sluts?
-Stumped
A: Dear Stumped,
Hmm. Good question. I wouldn't say that all the good looking guys are attracted to the so-called "super sluts," but I can see where you're coming from. First, everyone is attracted to different types, so what you may consider "good looking" may be a total turn-off to another person and vice versa. It also matters how you define "super slut"; to you a "super slut" could be a girl that gets around, while to another person it could be a girl that dresses provocatively or is constantly surrounded by guys. Don't ever assume anything about anyone and don't pay attention to what you hear around campus. With that said, any guy that falls for the "super sluts" (however you define them) isn't worth your time. You are beautiful in your own way, and if they can't see that then that is their loss. Someday, someone will see you for who you really are, and in his eyes you will be the definition of perfect. Wait for that guy-forget the others! As for the "super sluts," eventually they'll close their legs, put real clothes on and find some female friends (i.e. grow up), so don't let them get to you. You have self respect, which some of them might severely lack.
-Stacey
Have any questions, comments or concerns for Stacey? Write to her! Send your e-mails with the subject title "So, Stacey…" to integrat@clarkson.edu.
It's been 6 months since my boyfriend broke up with me. I've been asked out on dates a few times but have turned the guys down every time. Am I wrong for not wanting to go out with anyone just yet?
- Wondering
A: Dear Wondering,
The answer to this isn't a clear yes or no. In some ways you are wrong for not getting out there because it seems like you're holding on to the relationship you had that didn't work out, but in other ways it seems like you're taking a "time out" from dating so you can figure out what you want out of a relationship. It's O.K. to miss the previous relationship, but only to a point. You don't want to hang on to what isn't there because that is unhealthy, so take the good with the bad and let go but hang on to the good memories. If you just need a break to figure out what is right for you, then go for it. Every now and again it's good to step back and take a look at what you've got going on in your life so you can decide what the next best move should be. Relationships aren't easy, so a breather from them is sometimes the best choice. Whatever your situation, you'll be just fine. No one can decide what is right or wrong for you but YOU.
-Stacey
Q: So, Stacey…
How is it possible that all the good looking guys fall for the super sluts?
-Stumped
A: Dear Stumped,
Hmm. Good question. I wouldn't say that all the good looking guys are attracted to the so-called "super sluts," but I can see where you're coming from. First, everyone is attracted to different types, so what you may consider "good looking" may be a total turn-off to another person and vice versa. It also matters how you define "super slut"; to you a "super slut" could be a girl that gets around, while to another person it could be a girl that dresses provocatively or is constantly surrounded by guys. Don't ever assume anything about anyone and don't pay attention to what you hear around campus. With that said, any guy that falls for the "super sluts" (however you define them) isn't worth your time. You are beautiful in your own way, and if they can't see that then that is their loss. Someday, someone will see you for who you really are, and in his eyes you will be the definition of perfect. Wait for that guy-forget the others! As for the "super sluts," eventually they'll close their legs, put real clothes on and find some female friends (i.e. grow up), so don't let them get to you. You have self respect, which some of them might severely lack.
-Stacey
Have any questions, comments or concerns for Stacey? Write to her! Send your e-mails with the subject title "So, Stacey…" to integrat@clarkson.edu.
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